no will do

sometimes just a simple "no, we can't do it, but we'll help find someone who can." is better than a 30 min beating round the bush.

i told one of my friends of a 20k project and asked if they (their company) can do it. hmm...we don't really have the facilities to do that but i'll find out for you. later when i called to check he asked me out for tea to talk about it.

so i went with high hope....why else would he want to talk further about it. so we met up, had a chat, he didn't say no, but gave lots of example where 20K jobs doesn't cut it anymore.

hmmmm.....i know you're trying not to offend me by not telling me no,.... but i guess beating around the bush for 35 to 40 mins to do it really upsets me.

it's a 'business' proposal, i thought of them coz i thought they could make some money out of it, not because i thought they're 'hadap'* for jobs or that they're low on business or that i was going to take advantage of them. plus the beating around the bush, telling how some others with such low budgets were told off..... it's like telling me,'if you are not my friend, i would have given you the same treatment!'

phew.... good thing got blog to lepas geram ** .....

all said they're a nice guys, and guess they just want to break it to me 'gently'....i suppose sometimes we do not how to behave when we need to say 'no' to people we're close to. we fear they will take it the wrong way and we end up making an enemy.

1 john 4:18 - ...but perfect love casts out fear...

(sub plot)

these editing 'job' are/will be taking more time than i expected. things are not as easy as it looks and lots of stuff to sort out quickly. how did i end up with all these again ??


* hadap = begging
** lepas geram = lash out